The biggest mistake during a divorce is letting emotions like anger and revenge drive decisions, leading to costly, prolonged legal battles and poor outcomes, especially regarding finances and children; other major errors include failing to understand your finances, using kids as weapons, not seeking legal and financial advice, and getting sidetracked by minor issues instead of focusing on a stable future.
Here's a breakdown of common, damaging mistakes:
Emotional & Behavioral Errors
- Letting Anger & Revenge Rule: Seeking retribution in court backfires, increasing costs and damaging co-parenting, as courts aim for fairness, not punishment.
- Using Children as Pawns: Attacking your ex in front of kids or involving them in adult conflicts causes long-term harm to your children and relationships.
- Making Decisions Based on Emotion: Agreeing to unfair terms to end things quickly or fighting over sentimental assets you can't afford.
- Continuing Intimacy: Resuming a physical relationship can cloud judgment and lead to decisions not in your best interest.
- Gossiping or Over-Sharing: Saying too much to your ex or on social media can be used against you.
Financial & Legal Errors
- Ignoring Finances: Not understanding your complete financial picture (assets, debts, taxes) prevents a fair settlement.
- Rushing the Process: Trying to speed through can result in unfavorable terms; take time to understand everything.
- Failing to Get Advice: Not consulting a lawyer or financial advisor early on to protect your rights and assets.
- Fighting Over Small Things: Wasting money and energy on minor assets when legal fees far outweigh the value.
Strategic Errors
- Not Prioritizing Kids: Failing to put your children's well-being first.
- Assuming Amicability: Thinking an amicable divorce is guaranteed when it's not; you're no longer a team.
- Hiding Assets/Lying: Dishonesty can severely backfire in court.
How to Avoid Them
- Focus on Rationality: Consult professionals (lawyers, financial advisors, therapists) for objective views.
- Prioritize Long-Term Stability: Focus on financial health and a sustainable future, not just winning small battles.
- Pick Your Battles: Let go of minor issues to focus on your major goals.
- Plan Ahead: Organize finances and understand implications before announcing the divorce.
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