If you have examined how divorce mediation works, and you think this process
could work for your dissolution of marriage, then you may still have to
figure out how to broach the topic to your spouse. You will have to assess
whether at this point you and your spouse will be able to communicate
in person about this issue, or whether you will need to give them this
suggestion in writing.
To help you out with this part of the process, here are some tips on what
you should and should not do.
Before you can tell your spouse about mediation, you have to know more
about this process yourself. Research what a mediated divorce means in
New York, find a
Long Island divorce mediator, etc.
When you try to persuade your spouse to enter divorce mediation, focus
on objective facts, such as the money you would save, and how much less
conflict and stress there is in mediation than in a litigated divorce.
You could also point out that you would get to be the ones who decide on
alimony, etc., instead of a judge.
- You can fill your spouse in about your research. Any brochures, pamphlets,
or information from local family law centers you can give your spouse
can help them evaluate this process for themselves.
- It imperative that you express your openness to your spouse's opinions
as well. This could look like having a list of several different mediators
to choose from, or hearing them out on their choice of mediator, instead
of being adamant about the mediator you want for your divorce.
- Do not force the issue. You can give your spouse a rundown of the process
and your reasons for wanting to pursue mediation, then you should let
your spouse mull this over. Do not pester them on the matter. You can
be much more successful in this process if you both enter into willingly.
- Of course, this also means that you cannot coerce your spouse into mediation,
such as through threats of draining them of every cent in court if they
refuse to get a mediated divorce.
You can still be persistent though. If your spouse ignores you or rejects
the offer, you can still give them some time, but you also give them a
timely reminder. You do not want to quit on the possibility of an amicable
divorce right away. Even if you are already in the midst of a
divorce, you could suggest that you go into mediation to solve the issues that remain.
To learn more about the benefits of divorce mediation,
contact the Meyers Law Group, P.C. Our experienced Long Island divorce attorney may be able to help you protect
your rights as you pursue as amicable divorce as possible.