As traumatic as a
divorce can be for anyone, a divorce can hit kids especially hard. If a divorce
means a move, then your child may further be separated from school and
friends. It is vital that you do what you can to eliminate as much stress
as possible, creating as stable an environment for your children as is
possible given the circumstances.
If you can, you want a child's support groups to always be accessible.
This would mean keeping them as close as possible to relatives, friends,
school, etc. If any changes need to be coming your way, then you need
to give your kids as much notice as you can, giving them time to adjust.
And everyone adjusts differently. Once the divorce is finished, you may
find that it can take months for everyone to grow used to the new residence,
the changed schedules, but adjustment does arrive. Just be in tune with
how your kids adjust. For example, it is erroneous to think that kids
have to vent about their emotions; it is just not true for every child,
so this is not something you want to force.
It is also important that you spend time with each child, one-on-one, on
a daily basis. Your kids need to know that you will be there for them,
and that you will be supportive. It is also vital that the rules are clearly
laid out and that discipline is consistent. Also, a consistent schedule
can help everyone to adjust by having a routine they can rely on.
As for what you and the other parent can do, getting as quick and amicable
a divorce as possible is of benefit to your children. It is usually important
to have a consistent parenting schedule that allows kids to maintain their
relationships with both parents. It would also be ideal to keep the kids
from having to be shuttled back and forth from each house, to perhaps
enable to them to spend most nights under the same roof. And then it is
important to defuse conflict with your ex when the kids are in the same
room or are within earshot.
And even once you have a custody arrangement in place, your
parenting plan may need to be adjusted from time to time as your children mature and
have different needs as they do so. Whether you are about to go through
a divorce or your divorce is already finalized and you need to modify
any of these court orders, our Long Island divorce lawyer can provide
the expertise you need.
Contact the Meyers Law Group, P.C. today to learn how we can help you create the best possible future for