Divorce is a complex area of law, upon which rest the futures of a family.
With so much at stake amidst a maelstrom of emotions, divorce can be laden
with potential pitfalls and numerous difficulties. While every situation
will call for its own solution, for many divorcing couples,
divorce mediation can be the way to mitigate the stress of courtroom procedures, to get
a fair divorce settlement, to keep your problems private, and to save time.
1. Court battles can devolve into melodramatic affairs where children become
pawns and spouses fight bitterly for every cent they can squeeze out of
the other. This prolonged and stressful affair takes its toll on everyone,
emotionally as well as financially. When grievances are aired in this
theater, resentment can grow even stronger, and parties can become more
antagonistic. One of the greatest benefits of divorce mediation is that
it can create an atmosphere where spouses can engage in positive negotiations
that can yield a fair result.
2. Your chances of getting a fair result may be greater in mediation than
in a courtroom. Whereas an experienced judge can strive to arrive at a
fair decision according to the law, a court has precious little time to
get acquainted with your specific case. Who better to decide the terms
of the divorce than the two people most familiar with their own relationship
and values? In divorce mediation, a mediator facilitates discussions and
can suggest solutions, but he or she has no authority to enforce those
suggestions. The people with the ultimate deciding power are you and your
3. When done right, mediation gives both parties a fair playing field. While
a spouse may fear that the other would dominate the conversation and only
assert their own demands, a mediator will be committed to providing balance
to the proceedings, and if each spouse has their own attorney, each spouse's
rights can be protected. Granted, if a spouse refuses to cooperate, mediation
may simply not be an option, but when mediation is possible, then each
spouse's side gets heard, and both spouse's interests can be served
in the final agreement.
4. Instead of airing your problems in a public venue, mediation can help
keep your private problems the way they should be. Mediation is supposed
to be a safe environment where both sides can state their issues and find
areas of agreement and compromise. It shields the proceedings from public
view, and the lower stress environment can make spouses more amenable
to pursuing an amicable divorce.
5. Not only can going to trial mean a high-conflict divorce process, but
it will almost certainly be a drain on each spouse's time. Backlogged
courts mean having to wait a long time between court hearings. These delays
mean a drain on each party's bank account too. With divorce mediation,
on the other hand, less conflict means you need fewer meetings. This time-saving
process can in turn save you money.
If you want to learn more about how mediation could help you get a peaceful divorce,
contact the Meyers Law Group, P.C. today. Of course, mediation will not be for everyone. It takes both spouses
to agree to pursue mediation, and they both have to be open to compromise
on most issues. But even if mediation does not fit well with your situation,
the chances for getting a swift and fair settlement are good in most divorces.
In other cases, getting an
uncontested divorce is the solution for couples to achieve as painless a divorce as possible.
To learn more about your options when it comes to
divorce, start working with an experienced Long Island divorce attorney from our