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What You Can Do If You're Divorcing a Narcissist

What You Can Do If You're Divorcing a Narcissist

Posted By Meyers Law Group, P.C. || 2-Apr-2014

Plenty of divorcing couples will find themselves breaking up from an increasing selfish spouse, or start realizing unfavorable changes in their own behavior, but narcissism is something more. There are several distinct characteristics associated with narcissism, according to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) published by the American Psychiatric Association. These characteristics include:

  • An exaggerated sense of one's talents and accomplishments
  • An inability empathize with others
  • Need for extreme amounts of praise
  • Manipulation of others to get what they want

Can you get an amicable divorce from someone who exhibits such complex and damaging behavior? In all reality, probably not. You need to be ready with smart tactics in order to protect your rights and your financial future when you're getting a divorce from a narcissist. You need to realize that a narcissist will not own up to their responsibility for the divorce, may fail to cooperate with their own divorce attorney, hide financial assets from you, shamelessly use your child as a pawn in a divorce battle, and flagrantly disobey court orders. When such a divorce lies in your future, here are three things you can do to get ready for it:

  1. Save up & check your credit. A narcissistic spouse is pretty good at making a divorce drag out, so save up as much as you can to be prepared for the legal fees. If you do not have good credit in your name, then you should start building up your score. You need to open a credit card in your own name, and you need to be eligible for a loan in the future.
  2. Gather your financial documents. Once you start the divorce, your spouse is probably going to interfere with your attempts to get the full financial disclosure you need. You need to find all the necessary documents before you file for the divorce, and make copies of these papers. You can store these in a safety deposit box that only you know about, or you can give them to a friend or family member you know you can rely on.
  3. Get a divorce team on your side. Of course, you will need an experienced and dedicated divorce attorney on your side. On top of this, you may need to work with a divorce financial planner. Then you will need a support group, whether that is friends, family, a therapist, find the people who can help you through this difficult time.

If you are looking for the right divorce lawyer in Long Island, someone who has the talent and tenacity it takes to help you through even a complex divorce, you can find the legal help you deserve at the Meyers Law Group, P.C. Find out how our legal advocate can help you can navigate your way to the peaceful future that you deserve. Call us today!