When it comes to advice on achieving a successful
divorce, there is no substitute to getting personalized counsel from a divorce
lawyer. For one thing, not every situation is going to be the same, your
reasons for the divorce, the level of civility you can maintain with your
soon-to-be ex, etc., these will all vary. But across the board, there
are a number of things a divorcing couple should never do. Here are five of them.
Ignore the option of a mediated divorce. Too many people still have the idea in their heads that they need to find
an aggressive divorce lawyer who can fight and "win" for them.
Too few are aware of what
divorce mediation could do for them. While not every divorcing couple are candidates for
mediation, this is at least something to look into. Mediation puts the
decision-making power for your future squarely in your hands, and it saves
you money and time too.
Prolong the divorce. If you or your spouse fail to be fully prepared, are obstinate on a term
of the divorce, or in any way drag out how long your divorce will last,
you will both be met with higher legal bills and needless stress.
Forget that there's life after divorce. It's only natural to take time to sort through everything, to struggle
through a bewildering array of emotions, to think much of the past. While
there is a valid need to work through all of that, you cannot forget to
start moving forward, to forgive yourself, even to forgive your ex, and
to know that it's going to be better as long as you keeping going forward.
Have family and friends as your legal counsel. Do you need this support group on your side? Definitely. Are they qualified
to give you sound, unbiased advice for the legal process of the divorce
itself? Probably not. Working with a qualified divorce lawyer and/or mediator
enables you to get professional, objective advice for your future.
Air your case on social media. Whether it's spilling details of your case or just venting, posting
this information to Twitter, Facebook, or anywhere else online can never
be a good thing. All too often, it can complicate matters in the divorce
itself, and could lead to even more stressful legal processes (think lawsuit),
as if divorce were not already messy enough.
If you want to learn more about your options when it comes to choosing
the type of divorce to pursue, or if you want legal advice for your specific
circumstances, be sure to
reach the Meyers Law Group, P.C. At our firm, a divorce attorney from Long Island can help you understand
your rights and what you can expect from this intense legal process.