While a divorce trial may be worth eluding, especially a
child custody battle, sometimes neither of these can be avoided. If you find yourself
in a child custody evaluation, then whatever the evaluator recommends
to a judge is likely to appear in the final court order. Understandably,
you may have concerns about your interviews with the evaluator, and you
want to do anything possible to show yourself off as a good parent. Contrary
to common advice on the web, however, the evaluation is not a battle or
a game for you to win with a few tricks. This is about trying to determine
your family's future, and at this point, the courts and/or you have
acknowledged that a qualified third party might help you figure out the
best child custody arrangement. Here then are some things to keep in mind
for your appointments with the evaluator.
DO honestly relate your strengths in parenting, as well as your weak points.
DO always answer honestly when you are asked about your circumstances, past
DO NOT paint the other parent in a bad light. Even if the evaluator asks you
about your soon-to-be ex, relate their strong and weak points as objectively
as possible. Do not linger on any one point.
DO state why you prefer one custody arrangement more than the others, but
also relate that you are open to other custody orders, for the good of
DO NOT keep repeating why you deserve the custody arrangement that you want.
Only state these reasons once.
DO center everything on the children; you and the court's wishes are
to find the arrangement that is in the child's best interests.
DO admit how maintaining a healthy relationship with both parents will help
DO NOT try to use the evaluation as a way to get what you want by playing the
DO NOT answer a question in a way that sends you off into a sales pitch or closing
argument, selling yourself as an excellent parent and arguing why you
should have custody and not the other parent, etc.
DO NOT prime your children with answers ahead of time. Let them answer honestly too.
DO tell them that all they need to do is answer truthfully. You can explain
that a professional is working to understand your family so as to create
the parenting plan that is best for everyone.
DO stay on top of things, fully complying with all paperwork requests and
deadlines. For example, you might be asked to verify your work and your
medical history. You should fill out and submit the necessary forms as
soon as possible.
DO NOT miss a single appointment with the evaluator, and do not even show up late.
DO NOT violate any court orders, especially custody orders, during the evaluation
and the divorce.
If you have any further questions about your
divorce, then you may be able to find the answers you need at the Meyers Law Group,
P.C. You may also be able to find the legal representation that your family
deserves when you work with our firm. You could work with an experienced
Long Island divorce attorney who is dedicated to ensuring the strongest
possible future for you and your family.
When the rest of your family's future is on the line, you need to find
the best divorce attorney possible, one who is not only skilled, but is
also passionate about helping families through a difficult transition.
To find out how we may be able to help you,
contact our firm today!