While divorce is a complicated and emotionally draining route for individuals
to take, if a couple has children, then the split becomes that much more
difficult. It is no longer just trying to get yourself through the process;
you have to help your kids through to the other side unscarred. As daunting
as this could sound, it is possible, and parents have been accomplishing
this for years. Here are some of the things that you can pattern after
the parents who have gone before you:
First off, you have to open up your children; communication is key. Hard
as it is, you have to break the news to your children. While some may
express relief, others will likely feel shocked, angry, or sad, or all
three at once. How much you relate to your child will depend on their
age, but no matter what it is that you need to tell them, the thing both
parents absolutely must communicate is that the child is not responsible
for the split. Your child has to know this with certainty.
You also have to keep your children from being involved, even if your divorce
is quickly devolving into hostilities. No matter how heated things get
between you and your spouse, you have to both agree to make sure your
children do not get dragged into it. Especially if it is
child custody that turns into a battle, no one wins, least of all your children. Handling
everything in the divorce in as mature a fashion as possible can ensure
your children's emotional and behavioral health in the future. Their
lives are in enough upheaval as it is.
That is why it is imperative to change as little as possible in their lives.
Your children need to know that they can depend on both of you, and that
they can depend on a regular schedule of visitation. They need to know
that they can see you both on a regular basis, and that they can talk
to you whenever they need you. Of course, this can all be much easier
said than done, but it has been done.
Another thing you can do for your children is to work with a Long Island
divorce lawyer who is committed to settling a
divorce before it goes to trial, while still ensuring that your family's rights
are protected. You deserve to be represented by a capable and compassionate
attorney who can help your family resolve a divorce as efficiently and
amicably as possible. When your family's future is on the line, you
can rely on the Meyers Law Group, P.C. Find out how we may be able to
serve you when you
contact our firm today.