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Preventing Co-Parenting Conflicts

Preventing Co-Parenting Conflicts

Posted By Meyers Law Group, P.C. || 27-Nov-2013

Having to maintain some regular contact with your ex can be hard enough, especially when it is over big decisions that you have to make for your kids. All the same, at whatever time a conflict starts brewing, you can minimize or even prevent it. Here are some important things to keep in mind that may help you keep co-parenting conflicts from flaring up:

The first thing is to remember that your kids come first. What they need has to outweigh what either of you think they may want. For example, you do not want to overschedule your kids. While a schedule of extracurricular activities can be important for your kid's development, also remember that they need some time to unwind. If their every afternoon is crammed, studies show that this can stress out your kid. As for your own schedule, be willing to work with the other parent's schedule. If something comes up where you might need to trade nights, or especially if your timesharing is unaffected, try to be as flexible as possible.

Third, when your kid has time with the other parent, you do not want to interfere with this. Keep to the timeshare agreement, honoring the parenting plan you created. Fourth, accept the fact that you and the other parent are going to have different approaches. Try to not voice your disapproval over your different opinions on how to set up your households, and try to keep from a judgmental attitude altogether.

Finally, there can be sticky situations financially. For example, if your kid is begging for a new game or a new outfit, or if they need to fix their bike, you do not want to let them know that the other parent cannot afford it. This is something both you and the other parent can sort out, and that is as much as your child needs to know, that you will talk about it with their mom/dad. And you certainly do not need to have this conversation within earshot of your children.

One thing is often the case: you both want what is best for your child. The problem is agreeing on what "best" means. But knowing that you both have the same goal, and knowing that there is usually more than one right answer, you can set aside your problems to do the best that you can for your kids, respecting the other parent's decisions and not enforcing your personal expectations on them. If you are struggling with the current parenting plan and need to modify it, or if you want the help of a qualified family law mediator, then you may be able to find the assistance you need at the Meyers Law Group, P.C. Contact our Long Island family law attorney today!