As a rule negotiating your divorce is better than pursuing
divorce litigation. And thankfully, most divorces do end in a settlement instead of in a
trial. But getting a settlement only works if both you and your spouse
approach it in the right matter. As you two and your respective attorneys
hold a meeting to work out the details of your divorce, here are some
tips to help you peacefully resolve your
divorce instead of catapulting it into a courtroom battle.
First off, try to be as objective as possible. You do not want anger or
hurt to get the best of you. And this meeting is not the time to air your
grievances either. While there is a place and time to express how you
honestly feel, the settlement is the time to hammer out the financial,
material, and legal aspects of your divorce. It will be simpler, and easier
on you, to treat this session as a business negotiation.
Those who go through a
negotiated divorce are the ones who realize that no one can actually win a divorce, not even
in a trial. You have to be open to compromise if you want to divorce as
amicably as possible. Unfortunately, your spouse may not be as accommodating,
so a peaceful divorce may have to start with you. If you listen, if you
make a compromise, you may find your spouse willing to reciprocate. If
you are both will to give in a little, you can achieve a mutually agreeable
settlement, one that will further save you stress, time, and money.
Finally, do not be content with ambiguity. If you do not understand some
legalese, or if one provision confuses you, do not hesitate to ask questions.
Your attorney is there as your legal counsel, who can enable you to understand
every step of the divorce. This is your future, and you do not want to
be agreeing to even one provision that you do not fully understand. Feel
free to ask how this legal document will translate into your real life.
If necessary, do not be leery of asking for a break either. Give yourself
time to think, and make sure you know the details of your future.
Even if you require further meetings to complete the settlement, every
meeting is important. With the right perspective and preparedness, you
can draw up a fair agreement, one that will set you up for the future
you deserve. To find the legal advocate who can provide you the expertise
and counsel you need for a peaceful divorce,
contact the Meyers Law Group, P.C. today. Learn what our Long Island divorce attorney may be able to do for you.