Some people already view the holidays as a good time with family and friends—and
also as stressful preparation. When you and your family are facing the
uncharted territory of a holiday after a
divorce, the stress factor can easily become magnified. As you and your family
figure out how to divide the holidays and yet cling to cherished celebrations,
here are some more tips on how you can still hold on to these special times:
After all, traditions start somewhere. Why not create some fresh ways to
celebrate with your family? While you may have to let go of a time-honored
tradition, it can be fun and exciting to come up with a new way to observe
In the meantime, staying busy is usually a helpful thing to do. Specifically,
it can be therapeutic to start your spring cleaning, even as fall ends
and winter starts. You can get yourself organized, freeing yourself of
stressful clutter, and you can get rid of the things that need to go.
Don't just decorate for the holidays, redecorate your space, getting
to a fresh start in a productive way.
But don't feel like you have to fool yourself or anyone else that you
feel okay. Even if you were the one who asked for the divorce, you might
be feeling guilty. You might feel resentful if you were trying to achieve
a reconciliation. But either way, it is important to know that it is okay
to not feel okay, to be confused. Just know that once you can accept the
divorce, you can free yourself up to take the next steps in life. Use
the holidays as a starting point for your moving on.
A way you might be able to do this is to spend time by yourself, taking
the time to digests the past year and what you hope to accomplish in the
next. Spend time with yourself, and do not dwell on the past. You can
use this time to regroup, to reassess what you want out of life, really
make the most out of New Year's.
But of course, the holidays are definitely a time to be giving to others.
Remember the people you are grateful for, and show them your thanks. And
just as importantly, you can show your kids how to express this gratitude,
and how to be giving.
And as you face the holidays, if you are also facing legal issues, such
as needing to
modify child custody or to
relocate with your kids, then be sure to
contact a Long Island divorce lawyer with the dedication and experience you need. Call our legal team at the
Meyers Law Group, P.C. today!