Sometimes, there comes a point where parents no long wonder if their kid
will need therapy or not, they only wonder how to tell them so.
Divorce might be one of those times, and time also when parents are especially
worried about how their child might take this additional bit of news.
That being said, adults often find it harder to accept therapy than kids
do, and you can make it even easier for your kids. Here are some suggestions:
First off, you have to find the right time. If you drop the news at a time
when you are lecturing them, then your child will think they are being
punished with therapy. If your child is angry, then it will be difficult
for them to accept it. It is worth it to find a time when you are both
clear-minded, not upset. Then you can bring up the issues they are having,
whether it is trouble at school or trouble sleeping, and you can do so
kindly, sympathizing with them. Then you can let them know that there
is a person who can help.
Of course, you as well-timed as your announcement might be, do not be surprised
if your child does not like the news, insisting that they don't have
that problem, and that they do not need to be fixed. Just keep your cool,
and try to express that if they and the therapist can agree that everything
is okay, that you would be thrilled, but in the meantime, you love them
and want the best for them.
When your child is in therapy, you do not want to undermine it. When your
kid comes out of a session, you do not want to interrogate them. You want
your kid to volunteer information, if it ever comes, not to have them
tailor an answer to your expectations, or to clam up. If you need to,
you can talk to the therapist yourself to understand how your child is
doing. And you definitely do not want to take your kid to therapy as a
punishment. If you threaten them with therapy if they do not behave at
school, for example, this will be no help to them.
While working with a psychologist may be of help to parents as well as
kids, there are also legal matters that have to be hammered out in order
to move on successfully from a split. Whether you need to work out
child custody and support, or whether you are already past the divorce and need to modify
your current parenting plan, you will need a compassionate legal expert
on your side.
Contact the Meyers Law Group, P.C. today to learn what our Long Island family law attorney may be able to
do for you.