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Divorce vs. No Divorce: Which is Better When Navigating a Breakup

Divorce vs. No Divorce: Which is Better When Navigating a Breakup

Posted By Meyers Law Group, P.C. || 20-Mar-2013

When you find the right person, it is very easy to fall quickly in love. You meet this wonderful person, and immediately you realize that life without them would be impossible; there is nothing stopping you from pursuing a serious relationship. For some people this means quickly putting a ring on their finger and walking down the aisle, for others it means moving in together and practicing what marriage looks like, just without the legal stuff. Believe it or not, marriage rates in America are actually decreasing as cohabitation and single person homes are becoming more prevalent.

Many couples are choosing to play house, and have all of the perks of a married couple while never actually sharing the life together in full by contract. Perhaps you and your partner have been together for a while now, and you start wanting to go further into your relationship and start a family, though you just don't want to tie the knot in a legal sense. You two have a baby, maybe a second one, and are enjoying the process of sharing a family together. Fast forward 5 years, you are tired of playing house and you want to settle down and get married; your partner doesn't agree with this thought process and slowly starts pulling back from the relationship.

You and your partner realize there are problems in the relationship so you purse couples counseling, and it is here that an affair is brought up and you are devastated. The two of you attempt to work through the kinks of the relationship but after a while you realize it is time to part ways and end the partnership. Unfortunately, because you were never married, you are left trying to solve the details of child custody, division of the assets, etc. on your own. Without the protection of marriage and divorce laws, you are left alone and trying to figure out how to go about the process.

When a married couple decides to leave their spouse, they go to a lawyer and perhaps even to court in order to work through child custody, alimony, child support, division of the assets in order to have a specific legal contract listing out their settlement. When a couple chooses to not tie the knot in the beginning in can be hard to enforce agreements for child support and alimony. Many people would agree that this process can help others appreciate the value of marriage, because it makes the union a legal process and in essence encourages another level of commitment that cohabitation does not.

By refraining from making your relationship legal by the eyes of the state does not mean your relationship is immune from hardships, in fact it can make it more difficult to stick together. According to research by the University of Michigan, when couples cohabitate and have children 66% of these partners will separate once their children are 10 years old; whereas only 28% of married couples will split.

Essentially, marriage is much more than a legal contract that two people sign; it is an entity in of itself that people find worth fighting for. Even when couple is struggling with one another, they will do what they can to fight for their marriage, not just necessarily to be with each other. Marriage is not just two people who live together; it is life, family, partnership. Those who marry can understand that unique bond, and in the event of a divorce can be better protected when seeking to go about the settlement and contracts. If you are considering a divorce, contact a Long Island divorce attorney at The Meyers Law Group firm today!