The aftermath of a
divorce can be complicating at times, particularly in the event that you and your
ex have children. And while you would likely rather you never interacted
with your ex again, if you have children that preference may not actually
be an option for you and your ex-spouse because despite your many differences,
you still share the kids and that means talking. Whether you and your
spouse can never stop arguing, or just seeing their face brings back tearful
child custody is shared then those interactions are necessary.
Or are they? With today’s technology, is it possible to share custody
with your ex and never have to actually interact with them in person again?
For some couples the quick conversations with the ex may bearable, and
yet for other couples it may be a nightmare; and with recent technology
it may actually be possible to avoid after all. What is this you may ask?
It’s called long distance child custody arrangements. According
to an article on the New York Times, one woman and her (now) ex-fiancé
had a baby and she has realized that at least for the next 17 years or
so, her and her baby’s father will have to see each other a few
times every week.
This woman was awarded joint legal custody and primary physical custody
of the child and she states that the best way to communicate with her
ex is to do so by utilizing the internet options that exist. For example,
if they ever need to communicate during the week they use their emails,
allowing conversations to stay short and to the point in most cases. Here
they discuss their child’s schedule, pickups from day care and everything
else. This method has allowed the parents to come to an agreement that
despite their differences they do not want to be parents who constantly
argue in front of the children, which is why electronic conversations
are so key in their parenting relationship.
A helpful tool for “long distance custody” parents is the option
of an online calendar that changes and updates on both sides when they
need to share what is going on. As a parent, being able to text your ex
that you are running late from work and will pick up the kids in an hour,
is helpful rather than having to call and explain yourself or no be able
to talk to them until you are face to face. The thing is, no one ever
said a divorce was going to be easy, but with the benefits of modern technology
it can be a little less of a headache for you and your spouse, and your