Now honestly, no one truly wins a divorce. The process is stressful and painful for everyone. But while a divorce is not about beating an ex, there is a different way to feel successful in a divorce, if you approach the process rightly. Of course, if you are in the midst of a divorce, or about to be, you could feel like you are in survival mode. Yet people often find a way to overcome the difficulties of a divorce and come out even stronger. Here are some things that previous divorcees have found helpful in moving on to a more successful future after a divorce:
Are there people depicting a bleak future for you, always ready with a negative thought to share? Identify who it is in your life that is trying to get you to believe narratives that portray you as a failure, etc. Once you are aware of who these people are, you can see through their harmful statements. They do not really know you, and they certainly do not know the future. You can the confidently discount what they say.
Now in order to get the result you deserve from a divorce settlement, you have to know what it is that you need. What do you require for the future you want? What custody arrangement is fair for your children, do you need to keep the house, how much do you need in
support payments, etc.? If you can figure the answers out, then your divorce lawyer can know what outcomes are needed from negotiations. If you want to succeed, you will have to be able to define what success means for you.
Finally, you have to assess your values. How your ex behaves, what the divorce settlement produces, what your future looks like, all these are variables that are outside of your control. But your values, and whether or not you live them out, are in fact something that you very much influence. So figure out the values that you identify with, realizing that your circumstances are not what make you who you are. When you live out your values, you can further have optimism for your future.
While your future will be greatly affected by whatever divorce settlement comes out, there are no guarantees in the legal system. But your chances of an optimal settlement greatly increase when you have the best Long Island divorce lawyer possible on your side, someone who will want to achieve a settlement instead of dragging the matter out in court, someone who is committed to your best interests. Contact the Meyers Law Group, P.C. today to learn what our experienced legal team can do for you.