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Telling Your Kids You're Going to Get a Divorce

Telling Your Kids You're Going to Get a Divorce

Posted By Meyers Law Group, P.C. || 31-Dec-2013

As difficult as it may have been to muster the words at the right time to tell your spouse that you wanted a divorce, you may face a more daunting task when it comes to breaking the news to your kids. How you go about this will depend on how old they are, but the bottom line is that your kids need to know that both their parents will love them forever and that you are still a family. They also need to be reassured that they are not at fault. Sometimes, it is ideal for you two to tell your children together.

When you tell your kids about the divorce, they need to know that while the marriage is dissolving, their relationships with you and the other parent will last for life. If you have younger kids, no older than 5, then it helps to be brief and clear. If you have kids who are older, then you can give them more details, but you want to be careful of dumping too much on them. This is the initial announcement for one thing, and they will learn more about this process as it moves along, and as they grow older.

You may need to continually reassure them that they are in no way whatsoever to blame for the split. You also want to reassure your children that you both want to make things as stable as possible for them, and you will need to notify them whenever something is going to change. If your kids are in the 5- to 12-year-old age range, then they are especially likely to keep asking you the same questions from time to time. This is how they will try to get continual reassurance, and it is vital that both their parents give them consistent answers.

It is also important to remember that badmouthing the other parent in front of them is very hurtful to your children. This process will be a lot easier for your children to get through if they see both their parents conduct themselves with respect toward one another.

One way of achieving this is through divorce mediation, or a couple can pursue an uncontested divorce. In this manner, not only will you save time and money, but this can save you and your children a great deal of stress and pain. Seeking an amicable divorce can benefit everyone, enabling them to quickly move onto another chapter in life. In order to accomplish this, you would need a skilled divorce attorney in Long Island, one who has the experience to successfully guide your family through this whole process. Learn how a compassionate legal advocate can help you and your family when you contact the Meyers Law Group, P.C. today.