This is probably no surprise, but communication can be the difference between
divorcing or not. Successful communication can mean a successful marriage,
and poor communication can lead to
divorce. You have probably already heard this, and not just from a premarital
counselor either. And now a survey confirms what we already knew: the
top reasons for a divorce were problems in communication. A survey of
100 mental health experts found that 65 percent of divorcees divorced
due to issues with communication, and 43 percent of divorces stemmed from
issues with conflict resolution.
What are these communication issues? Seventy percent of the professionals
in the survey explained that for men, their biggest issue was with nagging
and complaints. In fact, a psychology professor from the University of
Denver concluded, after thirty years of studying couple behavior and divorce,
that nagging causes the risk of divorce to spike up. Some even say that
this behavior can be as damaging (if not more) than infidelity is. For
women, 83 percent of experts said that women felt that they were not affirmed
enough, that their emotions and thoughts were not properly acknowledged.
These survey findings align with previous research, such as a University
of Washington professor who studied these issues for four decades. He
identified the four most problematic communication patterns in a marriage:
criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling (totally ignoring
the other person).
But in the midst of a divorce, and even after, communication is still important
to achieving as amicable a dissolution as possible. When you need a legal
expert who can facilitate healthy negotiations so that you can move on
with your life as soon as possible, and with the results you deserve,
contact the Meyers Law Group, P.C. today! Learn what our experienced Long Island divorce lawyer can achieve
for you and your family.