Divorce is often a “great unknown” concept that can intimidate and scare the men and women who are getting ready to file. Sometimes a divorce is what needs to happen, but you may not want to think about the possible repercussions of the split. In a recent Twitter poll, The Huffington Post asked people what their greatest fears concerning divorce are and compiled all the answers into an informative article. One of the most common fears concerning divorce had to do with money.
One woman Tweeted that she was worried about allowing her husband to take half of the money she had worked so hard to earn. When it comes to asset distribution, it helps to have a prenuptial agreement in place. This way, you can be sure how much money your spouse will obtain if you end up going separate ways in the future. If you can create a prenuptial or postnuptial agreement it can clear up a lot of heated debates and keep you from losing too much of the money you worked so hard to make.
Another common divorce fear is getting remarried. If you are worried about this possibility, then you should rest assured that it isn’t a mandatory action. You do not need to get remarried unless you find a person that you truly believe you could remarry. Other people say that they are most worried about having to live life alone.
This is a common misconception when it comes to divorce People assume that life being single again is lonely. In some cases, it is actually much more social, busy, and enjoyable than marriage is! Being married to an unloving spouse is often more lonely than a life of freedom and friends. As a single person you may even have the time to pursue new relationships that you could not engage in before.
An additional fear for many is alimony costs. Some people are worried that they will end up supporting an ex-spouse well into the future and that spouse will have no incentive to get a job. Express this fear with your lawyer so that he or she can argue against alimony or permanent alimony in court. You may be able to show the court the danger that this will put your spouse in and effectively avoid having to support this spouse.
Another common fear in divorce is losing the children. Many spouses believe that if they split their spouse will obtain primary custody and they may be alienated from their loved ones’ lives. In order to fight against this possibility, you will want a family attorney on your side. With the right lawyer, you can argue against this and show that you are a fit parent and deserve at least joint custody with your spouse, if not primary custody.