If you recently got a divorce, or have separated from your spouse this summer, you may be worried about taking your kids back to school while you are feuding with your spouse. This will be the first time that you are not together with your husband or wife at parent/teacher conferences. It will be the first time that you attend all your child’s sports events alone, or have to awkwardly acknowledge your spouse when you both arrive at the school play. If you are apprehensive about sending the kids back to school, there are some important things you need to consider.
First of all, school needs to be a place where kids can go and not be encumbered by their parents’ problems. The Huffington Post states that children need to feel that they are in an environment where they can forget about home life and focus on studies and friends. In order to make your children feel as comfortable as possible, it is suggested that you tell their teachers about the home life. For example, if you and your spouse are getting a divorce, tip off the teacher right from the start. Normally, teachers can detect that a child has a difficult home life simply by observing the child’s behavior. You will want to confirm the teacher’s suspicions to make sure that he or she is sensitive to your child.
Also, you will need to organize a system so that your child’s teachers can talk to both you and the other parent at the same time when communicating about school issues. You can’t expect a teacher to double all communication about school simply because you and your spouse have separated. You may need to ask the teacher to send e-mails to both you and your spouse, or communicate in three-way telephone calls. Withholding school information from your ex will only create drama and get your child involved in the mayhem. Talk to a family law attorney for more tips on how to send your child back to school while you are separated from your spouse.